L!Stephen would have that same kind of anxiety, definitely. Once he starts admitting he's into domming at all, he'll wind up overcompensating by trying to call off even vanilla sex if he doesn't think Jon looks happy enough.
The painful aspects of submission are definitely a high bar to clear (although that again makes it seem like there would be more doms than subs...and yet). But there are plenty of non-painful options to explore: light bondage, sensation play, little things like Stephen deciding what Jon wears and eats, or, you know, ordering him to go to the grocery store.
In fairness to Dan Savage, he's equal-opportunity. It doesn't matter the gender of the person; if they're hardwired to get off on degrading sex, he would still say it's part of the price of admission of dating them.
I'll put that 'verse up for grabs at the sandbox project; maybe someone will pick it up ^_^
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L!Stephen would have that same kind of anxiety, definitely. Once he starts admitting he's into domming at all, he'll wind up overcompensating by trying to call off even vanilla sex if he doesn't think Jon looks happy enough.
The painful aspects of submission are definitely a high bar to clear (although that again makes it seem like there would be more doms than subs...and yet). But there are plenty of non-painful options to explore: light bondage, sensation play, little things like Stephen deciding what Jon wears and eats, or, you know, ordering him to go to the grocery store.
In fairness to Dan Savage, he's equal-opportunity. It doesn't matter the gender of the person; if they're hardwired to get off on degrading sex, he would still say it's part of the price of admission of dating them.
I'll put that 'verse up for grabs at the sandbox project; maybe someone will pick it up ^_^