Well hopefully many of them still love him so much so that when he says "gays are okay" they just follow him and think whatever he says is best.
For me the attraction of being a Dom is that you do get to be in charge of scenes ^_^; And I like the idea of having someone completely dependent on me (with the safety net that they can revert to being a self-sufficient adult if I screw up).
It's appealing sometimes, too. I'd worry that they wouldn't use their safe word even if they needed it.
I guess it ruins the fantasy-dom image that a lot of people are interested in writing about
Yes, I see your problem. We all want the dom to be perfectly attuned to the sub's needs and intuitive. I'm sure l!Stephen would be good at that by the way. Especially since he views Jon's submission as a gift. (Btw, I've known exactly one BDSM person in my life and he wrote every other LJ post about how grateful he was for his wife's gift of submission in going to the grocery store.)
And there's even less with subs who aren't really into the role but willing to indulge for their partner's sake; sometimes the dom is, but the sub's always either "totally into it" or "hates it, because this is a rape-fantasy fic"
Well, the problem, at least for me, is that unenthusiastic submission veers very close to rapey-ville. Especially if there is pain involved. Agreeing to be hurt when you don't like it is a really huge sacrifice.
That's one of the things I hatehatehate about Dan Savage; his insistance that you must accept aggresive and/or humiliating sex when you're dating a man.
Sara only seems to be writing original fic these days.
Awww, it's full of such possibilities! Stephen slowly getting over his fear of subbing and re-learning gender roles. Jon exploring his gender queerness. BriWi being really really hot.
His appearance on Letterman after Bin Laden was killed - Mmmmm!
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For me the attraction of being a Dom is that you do get to be in charge of scenes ^_^; And I like the idea of having someone completely dependent on me (with the safety net that they can revert to being a self-sufficient adult if I screw up).
It's appealing sometimes, too. I'd worry that they wouldn't use their safe word even if they needed it.
I guess it ruins the fantasy-dom image that a lot of people are interested in writing about
Yes, I see your problem. We all want the dom to be perfectly attuned to the sub's needs and intuitive. I'm sure l!Stephen would be good at that by the way. Especially since he views Jon's submission as a gift. (Btw, I've known exactly one BDSM person in my life and he wrote every other LJ post about how grateful he was for his wife's gift of submission in going to the grocery store.)
And there's even less with subs who aren't really into the role but willing to indulge for their partner's sake; sometimes the dom is, but the sub's always either "totally into it" or "hates it, because this is a rape-fantasy fic"
Well, the problem, at least for me, is that unenthusiastic submission veers very close to rapey-ville. Especially if there is pain involved. Agreeing to be hurt when you don't like it is a really huge sacrifice.
That's one of the things I hatehatehate about Dan Savage; his insistance that you must accept aggresive and/or humiliating sex when you're dating a man.
Sara only seems to be writing original fic these days.
Awww, it's full of such possibilities! Stephen slowly getting over his fear of subbing and re-learning gender roles. Jon exploring his gender queerness. BriWi being really really hot.
His appearance on Letterman after Bin Laden was killed - Mmmmm!