his anger comes from a place of trying to be who he is rather than trying to hide it

Nailed it, as usual :D YES, I think that would be an excellent meta post for fknwsgenderswap, please do share! I agree with the more fluid sexuality, and I also think that he would necessarily have some broader views of what women can and can't do - though, like his relationship with Jon, he will probably put up an obligatory protective front of misogyny and homophobia that he doesn't necessarily feel deeply.